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to treat a woman RIGHT:
What Women Want
This flick kind of speaks for itself, but men could figure stuff out just by carefully listening to a woman (which Mel Gibson is doing without even trying), and asking her what she wants (and paying attention to the answers!)
This might seem like a silly teeny bopper movie at first but then it gets better as Shane West's character starts to wake up and see what a great girl Mandy Moore's character is. He really sees her and goes beyond the superficial stuff.
Now this is how you treat a woman! Clint Eastwood's character, Robert, does nice things for Meryl Streep's character, Francesca; he helps her in the kitchen, he doesn't bang the screen door, he picks her a bouquet of flowers, he tells her she is beautiful. Who knows if the relationship would have survived if Francesca had ditched her husband and two bratty teenagers and headed back to Seattle with Robert, but it was great while it lasted. A good chick flick for learning how to be a sensitive guy.
Hitch (Widescreen Edition)
Will Smith actually has some pretty good advice for men, although it's mostly about how to get a woman, and not so much how to keep her. He figures it's up to the guy to deal with that stuff once he's done his job getting them together.
Bill Murray starts out glib and manipulative, falls on his face over and over, but gets a million chances to get it right. How many of us get that many chances? Anyway, he finally figures it out: be sincere, be honest, speak from your heart, pay attention, be kind, etc. and he finally gets the girl.
There is a great scene where Hugh Jackman's character Leopold arranges a dinner on the roof of the building where Meg Ryan's character Kate lives. He hires a violin player, has candles burning, etc. What woman wouldn't love that? He also sends her a spectacular apology note. He treats her like a woman and an intelligent person. He makes breakfast for her!
This is a sweet movie similar to Ground Hog day in that the leading man shows persistence. In Ground Hog Day, Bill Murray's character was, at first, persistently manipulative. In this movie, Adam Sandler's character keeps trying to woo a woman who always forgets who he is because she suffers from short-term memory loss after an accident. If men would put this much effort into maintaining a relationship, the world would be a better place!
Titanic (10th Anniversary Edition)
Jack is a sensitive guy who's got Rose pegged and isn't intimidated by her elevated social status. He connects with her right away and makes her feel special and worthwhile. What's cool about this movie is how focused he is on her up until the very last minute of his life.
Henry Fonda treats everyone like dirt except his wife, played by the graceful Katherine Hepburn. They are both in their 70s but still act like they are teenagers in love.
Great movies with themes about how NOT to treat a woman:
A Walk to Remember
The Bridges of Madison County (Full Screen Edition)
Groundhog Day - 15th Anniversary Edition
Kate & Leopold
50 First Dates (Widescreen Special Edition)
On Golden Pond
When Harry Met Sally...
This is an oldie but a goody. Harry and Sally do a good job getting to know each other as friends first, and then when they finally have sex, Harry treats Sally like he does all the other women he slept with after his divorce - like she's just another chick. Great dialogue and love the vignettes of the old couples and how they met.
The Break-Up (Widescreen Edition)
Take good notes here because this is a great example of how NOT to try to resolve your problems with your girlfriend. This is a classic case of bad communication and it's almost painful to watch because it hits so close to home. Actually, both of them do a lousy job of listening to each other. We thought Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn could have worked it out if they had just paraphrased each other once in a while and really tried to see the other person's point of view.
Something's Gotta Give
We don't understand why Jack Nicholson plays a lady's man so often, although he does have a certain charm, but anyway…this movie just goes to show you that it doesn't matter how old you are, you can still screw up and lose a wonderful woman because you are too damn scared to get really close to her.
The Accidental Tourist
Excellent movie with a great cast. Pay attention to the scene where William Hurt and Geena Davis are sitting on the couch and he says he wants to pay for her son to go to private school. This is so typical of how a man has good intentions but doesn't realize that she is reading between the lines, and it's what's in between the lines that's more important than the lines themselves.
An Officer and a Gentleman (Special Collector's Edition)
Except for the famous scene where Richard Gere picks up Debra Winger and carries her out of the factory, he doesn't treat her very well. When she tells him she loves him, he says he doesn't want her to love him. Okay, so he's got issues. But Gents, when a lovely lady tells you she loves you, don't slam the door in her face.
Tom Cruise's character does the right thing when he writes his infamous mission statement and when he dumps his loud-mouthed fiancé. But it takes him awhile to recognize the good thing he has going with Renee Zellweger's character.
If you're a guy, watching chick flicks is a great way to learn a thing or two about how to treat a woman right!
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