Do you know any couples who don't fight about money? I don't either.
Fighting about money, as anyone who is married or living together knows, is pretty common. Disagreements about how to spend, save, and invest can really ruin a perfectly nice Saturday.
Here are some popular couples and money fight themes:
These are all important issues, but the main thing they all have in common is that they need to be TALKED ABOUT.
Sure, you may say you talk about money all the time. But is it constructive? Is anyone really listening to the other? Or are they mainly bitching sessions or overly reactive and emotional "discussions?"
Here is where GOOD COMMUNICATION comes in. This is when it's absolutely critical to know good rules of communication inside and out. Read this website's page on communication. Commit to learning how to communicate effectively with your partner. This is critical when it comes to couples and money.
It's helpful to think about how your own parents handled money and how their attitudes and behaviors might be affecting you now. We unconsciously take on attitudes and beliefs about money, from our parents and don't even realize we're bringing these to our marriage (or relationship.) Share your insights with your partner. Hiring a financial planner might be a good idea for some couples. Having an impartial third party give recommendations can help you see the bigger picture.
Money can be a devilish issue for couples. But if everyone is honest, open, willing to communicate constructively, and willing to work toward common goals, money doesn't have to stand in the way of a couple's happy union. I know this is a tall order for a lot of people but it is possible.
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