Maybe all you need is a little kick in the butt just by reading this website.
Or maybe you just want to learn more by reading some of the books we suggest. But sometimes what you really need is help from a real live human to assist you over a relationship hump.
Lots of men are resistant to therapy and think they should be able to work things out by themselves. But if your marriage or partnership is in trouble, now is not the time to let machismo get in the way. Everyone has blind spots, men and women alike, and an impartial third person would be able to spot them.
If your wife or girlfriend is on the verge of jumping ship, then you have nothing to lose by suggesting couples counseling. If the situation isn't too far gone, she will most likely agree to it, and it could make all the difference in the world. (Or you can always go by yourself.)
Shopping for a therapist is kind of like looking for a mate. If it's not a good fit it's not going to work. Make sure you find someone you feel comfortable with, or you could wind up wasting lots of money. You'll have to talk to them to get a feel for them, at least on the phone, but preferably in person.
Therapy with a licensed and experienced practitioner can cost anywhere from $50 to $200 per session and sessions generally last 45 to 55 minutes. Some insurance will cover psychological counseling. College campus health centers and community mental health centers charge a lot less. Some therapists charge on a sliding scale. The fee also depends on the type of therapy and geographical location.
Don't be afraid to dump a therapist if after the first session you decide you don't like him or her. You won't get anything out of therapy if you don't like or trust your therapist. But hopefully you can get a good referral and determine ahead of time if it's going to be a good fit.
Remember that most everyone on this planet could use a professional relationship rescue once in a while. Life is full of tough stuff and it's not a sign of weakness to ask for help. Isn't your relationship worth the time, effort, and expense?
One last thing...a couples retreat might be a good way to go for a fast but intense counseling experience that takes place in a single weekend.
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