It is safe to say that for many women it's more about emotional closeness than it is about racing to the orgasmic finish line (not that knowing how to make a girl orgasm isn't important, it is :-) ). But, we need to feel emotionally connected to our partner in order to have a fulfilling sexual experience (and that elusive orgasam). That's just the way we're built.
We want our man to be emotionally present for us when we're between the sheets. That is the simplest path to fixing and sex drive problems we might be experiencing. It is the key to improving intimacy.
We can feel highly fulfilled if the connection with our partner is strong, and often find that a loving session of touching, cuddling, and kissing is as satisfying as an orgasmic encounter.
Here are a few other basic sex problems that women mention frequently:
Not all men are guilty of this but quite a few are.
It's understandable that you just get sleepy and that it's pretty damn hard to stay awake. But please keep in mind that a lot of women have the urge to cuddle afterward because that's when we feel closest to you.
If you fall asleep right after having an orgasm, we feel a little lonely. But if you absolutely cannot stay awake after you have an orgasm, then please, PLEASE, make sure your woman gets hers first. Because there's nothing worse than a man falling asleep while he's bringing her to orgasm. (That's why it's important to know how to make a woman orgasm).
This one goes right to sex drive problems and is probably the biggest sex problem of all.
Most women need more than five minutes of foreplay to become aroused and ready. It's just the way we're built. There are so many factors in a good sexual encounter like energy level and mood, but generally speaking, we'd like you to spend some time on a variety of body parts, not just the obvious ones. If we've had a long day and are tired, we generally won't be able to just "be ready" at the drop of a hat. But that isn't to say that a "quickie" once in a while is out of the question. It doesn't have to be a long, drawn-out affair every single time. But if you want a turned-on, hot woman, be prepared to spend time getting her to that place. And hopefully you'll enjoy getting there as well.
Improving intimacy has a lot to do with communication because no one can read anyone else's mind, and how are you going to know what your lover loves?
Okay, so you've been married or together for a long time, but that doesn't mean your sweetie is totally satisfied. Of course she might be, but please don't take it as an insult if she wants to make a few suggestions of how she'd like you to do something differently.
Granted, she needs to do this tactfully, but don't freak out if she wants to talk about your love life. And if she wants you to read a book about it, or read a book with her, DO IT!
Why would you say no to something that could potentially improve your love life?
Ditto for you talking to her. If you have ideas and suggestions, don't be afraid to bring them up with her.
This is another thing that varies widely with everyone, but in our circle, we have definitely had the problem of not getting enough! There could be a variety of reasons for this but the best thing would be to talk about it and figure it out together.
There are various reasons why women may be experienceing sex drive problems and don't want to make love, but the top reasons are because we are mad at you, or we're exhausted/stressed.
Other reasons for not wanting it could be that we feel self-conscious if, for example, we've gained weight, or we might be experiencing a drug-side effect. I'm not going to go into all these reasons, but I do want to focus on anger and exhaustion.
Sex problems with your wife or girlfriend just might be resolved by paying attention to these tips brought directly to you from real, live women with plenty of life experience.
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